I’m “Ready”…but Scared
Question
I’m ready to have sex, but when I think about it I’m scared that I’ll be hurt in the process. If we both want to have sex should it hurt?
Krysta
Answer
Last Updated: November 18, 2021
Dear Krystal,
Thank you for your question. You’re a wise young woman to question and doubt at this time before you make a decision that can change your life dramatically and not give you the results that you really want.
This is a step most of us take at one time or another because we are made to love and be loved.
My response to you is — wait. When you are in love and ready to marry the one who loves you enough to marry you and cherish you, then, and only then will you be really ready to decide such a question.
For now take good care of yourself and your body until that time that you and your loving husband will begin a family. Those children you will have together need the love of a father and mother.
Having sex now or before marriage may result in a child. For your sake and the child’s sake, this is not the right time even if you feel like it. You can control your actions.
Pray and ask for God’s help always. He loves you.
Judy Wilmurt
Thank you for your question. You’re a wise young woman to question and doubt at this time before you make a decision that can change your life dramatically and not give you the results that you really want.
This is a step most of us take at one time or another because we are made to love and be loved.
My response to you is — wait. When you are in love and ready to marry the one who loves you enough to marry you and cherish you, then, and only then will you be really ready to decide such a question.
For now take good care of yourself and your body until that time that you and your loving husband will begin a family. Those children you will have together need the love of a father and mother.
Having sex now or before marriage may result in a child. For your sake and the child’s sake, this is not the right time even if you feel like it. You can control your actions.
Pray and ask for God’s help always. He loves you.
Judy Wilmurt
Answered By:
Judy Wilmurt
Judy Wilmurt, Professional Member of CANFP, and past member of the Executive Board, taught the Creighton Model FertilityCare System of NFP in the Oakland region, wherre she resides with her husband Eric.
