Want Child But Scared
Question
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, and we would like to have a child together. I have two kids and I lost a child when I was 14 weeks: it stopped growing. I keep having problems with having kids. My son had to be born before his due date becasue of low fluid, and my little girl I got help with her and she almost died. She was born at 6 1/2 months. I would like to know if we should try it, because my fear is this time I won’t make it… could you help us……
Amie
Answer
Last Updated: December 13, 2014
Dear Amie,
It certainly does sound like your history would suggest an evaluation would be wise before pursing another pregnancy. There are problems that can be identified and addressed in advance, to increase your likelihood of a healthy pregnancy. The first step would be to chart your cycles, so they can be evaluated by an expert, including a phsyician. I suggest you consult an expert from our organization for assistance in doing this, and to help guide you in your decision re: a future pregnancy. You have many issues to consider, and an expert, individualized, in person response would serve you best.
I wish you well!
Sheila St. John
It certainly does sound like your history would suggest an evaluation would be wise before pursing another pregnancy. There are problems that can be identified and addressed in advance, to increase your likelihood of a healthy pregnancy. The first step would be to chart your cycles, so they can be evaluated by an expert, including a phsyician. I suggest you consult an expert from our organization for assistance in doing this, and to help guide you in your decision re: a future pregnancy. You have many issues to consider, and an expert, individualized, in person response would serve you best.
I wish you well!
Sheila St. John
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Sheila St. John
Sheila St. John is the Executive Director of the California Association of Natural Family Planning, coordinating the non-profit’s education and advocacy efforts throughout the state. Initially attracted to NFP as a healthy, effective method for planning families, drug, device and surgery free, her passion for NFP has grown over the last 42 years as she has journeyed with the over 900 couples she has personally instructed in its use, and been privileged to witness its role in overcoming infertility, women’s health, and the transformation that occurs in lives of men, women, and families, when we embrace God’s design for love and life.
