Stressed I Might Be Pregnant

Question

I am really stressed. I just got out of a four year relationship and I am worried I might become pregnant. No symptoms but it just seems like my luck. My last period started on November 25th and lasted four days.(It varies between three and five days.) My periods are always regular and start the exact day they’re expected to. I had unprotected sex on December 3rd with my boyfriend of four years… In the following week our relationship was tested and I had major doubts whether I wanted to be with him or not! In order to gather my thoughts I went to a friend’s house and she suggested I relax and drink some wine with her… I, who does not drink, decided to anyway! (This is on December 9th.) Later on her husband and his friend showed up at the house after a boy’s night out and we all continued our drinking…. One thing led to another and I ended up sleeping with the friend. He penetrated me three to four times without a condom, then put one on… It broke before he came so he never ejaculated. I am afraid if I end up pregnant I won’t know who impregnated me. Is it possible I could have gotten pregnant just by him penetrating me without a condom even though he did not actually ejaculate inside of me?
I’m sick to my stomach worried about this… Sorry. Just need to know what I can expect and ease my mind for the next 11 days until my period is supposed to start again. Also, if I were to end up pregnant, would it be possible to tell which date I conceived?

Cheryl

Answer

Dear Cheryl,

Since you didn’t mention how long your cycles usually are I cannot give you even an approximation to when you were likely to become pregnant or who the father might be. Sperm can live up to five days prior to ovulation under the right conditions. And yes, even without ejaculation you can become pregnant because we know that pre-ejaculatory fluid is high in sperm contact and mere contact with cervical mucus can result in pregnancy.

In either case I would not be able to tell you when you got pregnant. Learning a natural method of family planning is our recommendation for knowing when you become pregnant and for a healthier and happier experience in your future.

To learn NFP check our web site for links and teachers in your area.

Judy Wilmurt

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Judy Wilmurt
Judy Wilmurt, Professional Member of CANFP, and past member of the Executive Board, taught the Creighton Model FertilityCare System of NFP in the Oakland region, wherre she resides with her husband Eric.

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